The Process In Having Healthy Communicational Skills In Our Lives
Good day beautiful souls,
Today I would like to bring great enlightenment and healing into your life, on the core reason why people struggle between communicating in all forms of relationships. It all comes down to one thing for me, as I share with you the alignment to this truth. The aliveness of thoughts in the human mind being active while another is speaking, the egoic mind, the voice that plays in your head.
There is the human consciousness and then there is the soul’s consciousness. When I use the term consciousness, I mean it in a way by, the aliveness of thoughts that are created in a space. I share with you so that you can grow in a healthier way with now gaining new tools and knowledge, by understanding the difference between the two spaces where we can live. Once understanding the difference between the two, while living through your human form, you can then move forward with being more receptive and coming out of conversations where both parties feel heard and understood. Eliminating the lower vibrations of energy such as anger or resentments from things being said, or due to not being heard or from the other becoming defensive.
The human consciousness is all a part of the human experience here, so feel no shame that you may be held back in your life from the part of your ego. It all becomes a new experience for the light being of who you are within your physical body, living out the experiences that conditioned the aliveness of thoughts that run through your human consciousness. It shows us by the actions we do onto ourselves and towards others for the work that needs to be done in our lives of a healed being vs an unhealed person. But this is also a big part of why we come here, to learn and to heal from painful experiences, then to grow and evolve.
It is a different space of who we truly are within our human bodies, the human mind. There is always a voice who is analyzing and comparing in this space, judging ourselves and judging others, thinking of the past or future, and making stories that we create from what we have lived through or what we haven’t yet, which creates fears and anxieties. It also likes to speak up and cut people off when they are trying to express themselves to you because the voice of the ego wishes to speak up and to be heard over the other who is trying to share.
When people are speaking to us at times, we start hearing a voice in our mind of what to say next or they may say something to us where we may be triggered, to feel it is an attack, therefore a wall is put up to no longer listen to how the other is expressing themselves, waiting to fire back. This does not serve our highest good for the outcome we wish for. Also, learning boundaries in our lives can happen during these times for what we allow moving forward with how others treat us, not respecting us depending on how they are acting if in an immature way.
Triggers are a beautiful gift from where we get defensive because it may show us that there is healing work that needs to be done from our past due to living through personal experiences where we once suffered, perhaps from not feeling heard or seen. If a person has lived through suffering then please check out my transformational healing session here, which instantly releases the triggers in your life, Freeing Your Soul Transformational Healing Session.
When a person is in this space of thoughts, a space within the human consciousness while trying to have a conversation, then very little can come from it unless a person learns to live through the soul’s consciousness. In this space of living, we are always present in the moment, listening and absorbing what is going on around us with complete awareness and observation, the truth of who you are, the mind of the being of light within you. We are not judging or thinking of what to say next, judgement does not exist in the soul’s consciousness except for when we go to pass we judge ourselves from the experiences of our life path before going back. Make sure you are ready and in full listening mode to the other person who wishes to share with you.
The soul’s consciousness is a space I’ve learned to live through. It took deep suffering in my life to force me to learn and grow to end the suffering of my human mind of its thoughts, to be finally freed from the human mind of the suffering it can cause us in our lives. For 8 months I practiced daily to now live through each present moment, most of the time. Believe me, it wasn’t easy, as I am a person who once suffered all my life with having severe ADHD, but it can be done if deeply desired by all who are ready to do the work to reach this beautiful space.
You see, I was also given a gift back in 2018 from a near-death experience. I was deeply suffering within the human mind and once I stopped breathing there was a shift that happened. The aliveness of the mind of my soul was awoken to itself in fullness. The suffering of my human mind wasn’t there, but only peace and calmness of just being in that present moment, all that was there was that moment and nothing else. This was pure presence, with being in a state of peace and calmness that moved through me. I could feel my inner being of light energy moving around within my human body that lay there dead. I found true and real freedom for the first time in my life from my human consciousness.
Everything I lived through up to that moment of 40 years of the mind’s aliveness of its own thoughts that can hold us back greatly, was gone, and now I was just back to the truth of who I always was within this human form. When I came back to my body after 4 minutes of laying dead on my couch from my experience on the other side, I was now back in the full alignment of my human mind of its suffering.
Through all I have shared with you is how I know what I know to be giving back to you, the reader, my friend, my brother or sister of light consciousness. To bring awareness in moving forward in how to hold space for all people with not leaving the conversation to the thoughts in your human mind where ignorance can also be found and shown. To learn a healthy form of communication with one another so there is a bigger win from each of our conversations moving forward.
One thing for sure that we can all align to is that we all want to be heard when we are sharing with how we feel, from the experiences we lived through. We don’t want to be cut off and interrupted when in the middle of us sharing. We all wish to be given respect and for the other person to listen.
My Process In Having Healthier Relationships Through Better Communication Skills
1.The first thing, is just being aware of all I have shared about. Understanding what it means to be present in the moment through the soul’s consciousness. Give yourself unconditional love, as this is not something that will be perfected right away but will take time, as you are learning and growing in a new way, doing the best you can. Remember with one of life’s golden rules, practice makes perfect!
2. Make sure you are in a space to take on what the other person is desiring to share. If you are not in the right frame of mind then tell them not at that moment and give them a time frame for later because you are not in the space to be present for them. This is totally ok! I’d rather someone tell me not right now, as they have things going on in their mind, than for me to spend my time talking and them not being in the space to hear me. Most will take it personally if you agree to talk and you’re not paying attention. They won’t know what is going on in your thinking mind with other stresses you are currently trying to sort through. So make sure that you can be in a space to give them your full attention.
3. Remember how when you speak, requesting this from others to hold space for you to listen when you are speaking and how it feels to be cut off when sharing how you feel or what you are going through. Treat others with how you want to be treated.
4. Prepare yourself before starting to listen to the other person by bringing yourself into knowing you are going to be fully present and listen to all they share. Hold space for them while they share and not think of what to say next. If you are thinking of what to say next, then you are not listening or being present with them and it will not turn out in the easy manner as it could. It will be ego vs ego and nothing good ever comes from this space.
5. Catching yourself when your human mind begins to think while they are speaking. Here is where the human ego desires to come out and play, to speak above the other person. One must catch this before it starts by stopping it, observing any thoughts that want to enter your mind, which takes you away from fully hearing the other person and just coming back to focusing on listening to what they are sharing.
6. Now respond in sharing how you understand them and if you do not then ask the question, “I’m not understanding you. Can you please explain to me in another way so I can hear you?” This is not the time for you to explain and to go against their personal experience. That would be the ego of the human mind kicking in. However, after you responded by showing you listened to them and acknowledged their feelings, new steps can be taken moving forward to make improvements to the situation.
7. If you wish to express yourself from your perspective, always ask first if you can share to be heard as well, after steps 1-6. Otherwise, it will be felt as retaliation for you to just speak like you didn’t even listen. The other person will not listen and put a wall up within them to start thinking of what to say next if not asking them first. Now ego vs ego has begun, and again, nothing good comes from this lower space to be in.
I am grateful to all those who came across my article today because it is just another form or way I desire to end suffering from the human experience here. Bringing more peace into your life, as this is how I live in my life today which has brought much greatness into all my relationships. And we can all live here, but it takes work and practicing the new tools and knowledge we are given to live in a higher way. Higher, in the way of a vibrational state within all of us.
Having more love, joy, and happiness in our lives by eliminating as much as we can of the lower energies such as hate, resentments, ignorance, shame and guilt for the things we say, and feeling sadness. It can all be avoided by learning healthier ways to be here. We just have to be taught first and until we are shown then we must forgive ourselves from the past, as we did the best we could with what we knew at those times. We are all learning and growing here, so again feel no shame, as you have been doing the best with what you had to work with of inner wisdom and knowledge at those times.
I have given you all great knowledge today to understand more than you did the day before. Now it is time to practice what you have learned and grow each day, being better than the day before.
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Lots of Love always,
Jeffrey Saunders
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